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Friday, July 1, 2011

Pink Saturday 7/2/2011 and Random Thoughts

Welcome to Pink Saturday, chicks! I know I've been absent from PS and from blogging but I am on a mission for my Church and that has to come first. More on that later. But please visit the other participants by clicking on the logo below to visit Beverly and this wonderful showing of the PINKS!

This is our front yard a few days ago. The roses are in full bloom and are gorgeous and very fragrant. Enjoy viewing them! I even got hubs to spring for another rose bush. I'll show it in a later post. It's magnificent also.

These smell absolutely wonderful.

And this one is one of my favorites. Actually, I have several favorites but pink and yellow is my favorite color combo so it's high on my list.

As I said earlier, I am on a mission for my church—The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. I thought it would be a breeze; I've never worked as hard in my life. I'm doing a Family History mission, which means I can do it out of my home on my computer. But I've had to learn so many new programs that are NOT familiar to the general public: SugarCRM, inContact, Googledocs, WebReference, wikis for the church, MeetingPlace and a few more. I'm supposed to commit to at least 15 hours a week. I thought "no problem." I was wrong! It's been a major challenge. I was trained for 4 or 5 weeks. This past Monday, along with something else, I totally lost it and broke down crying to Love Bunny. I explained what had happened to me that day (story below) and how low I was feeling about the whole thing. He set me straight, but more about that after the next story.

Last year my primary physician told me it was time for a colonoscopy. Well, y'all know what that means: drinking the most dreaded drink known to man. But I agreed. I went down the hall to the doctor she recommended, scheduled an appointment for a consultation and several days later I met with a woman in the doctor's office who wasn't the most pleasant of individuals and was a severe person, and I'm still not sure if she was a nurse, FNP, PA or just his assistant as her manner of dress gave no indication. She took my history and when I went back out to the receptionist, she scheduled an appointment for the procedure. I did a "mental shrug" and wondered about how this was going to work. Now, I don't know about you all but I want to meet the doctor before going into the surgery room. I didn't think this was out of line one bit. I absolutely take a very assertive stance in my healthcare and all other parts of my life. So I called back to cancel the procedure until I'd met the man. This has taken several months because he wasn't always available. I said that wasn't a problem; I'd wait. Meanwhile, my doctor was pressuring me to have it done. I finally called again to the other doctor and scheduled. They then called me back and asked WHY I wanted to see him. He didn't see why that was so important. So I had to explain to the doctor's receptionist (who was a sweetheart) WHY. I was experiencing a bit of a problem but didn't want to tell the whole office, for crying out loud. After explaining in the most intimate details the problem to the receptionist, she said that she'd relay the information to the doctor. She was as embarrassed as I was.

Well, this past Monday I went to his office and was escorted into a consultation room. When he walked in—I've never ever SEEN the man before—he wouldn't even meet my eyes. I held out my hand as he DIDN'T and he had no choice but to shake my hand. It went downhill from there. He was rude, arrogant, disdainful, contemptuous and told me 2 times to not interrupt him. Why I didn't just get up and walk out I don't know. I came home, went out to dinner with hubs,vented to him and asked for counsel as he knows me better than any other human being. He just said, "I don't see why you're even asking. Cancel the appointment and go back to your old doctor [the one who has performed the procedure 2 other times and is a surgeon]." Hubs is so practical! I didn't need validation as I knew I was in the right but I was so stunned by that man's behavior I wondered how he even got patients. If he doesn't like meeting with his patients then he should seek another line of work. His bedside/chairside manner was atrocious. I even asked him about the little problem I was having and asked if when he performed the procedure if he would do a surgery is anything was wrong. He said, "No." I sat there stunned waiting for an explanation. Then I asked why and he said he wasn't a surgeon; he was a D.O. Okay, that was the clincher for me. I knew this wasn't going to be a match. That's when I drew hubs into the picture.

My point here is with the new healthcare laws we need to take an even greater interest and be assertive in our healthcare. Plus, do NOT put up with this "God-like" behavior with any doctor! It's your life and your body. Be assertive!

Random Thoughts:

On Same Sex Marriage: Marriage long ago ceased to be a promise made before God and community for man to take care of woman until death do us part, for man and woman to take care of their children until they are old enough to take care of themselves.

In its place is a half-meant promise to live together until man and woman are sick of each other or no longer have sufficiently enjoyable sex, with children fitting somewhere alongside who gets the Prius as a priority.

I am so blessed to have the same original man with whom I started out married life. He knows my physical flaws, the sagging body, the wrinkles, the age spots, the scars, all my imperfections and still loves me with all the vigor of a first love.

What we do in life echoes in eternity so you'd better shape up here.

When my daughter gave me access to her Netflix account recently while recuperating from foot surgery, I watched DVDs on my laptop. I noticed how smoking is so prevalent in the movies. I don't smoke and never have, just as a personal choice, not just because of my religion. But I certainly want to have the freedom to smoke for others who do. Now, I'm finding it very hypocritical for the Hollywood types to condemn everything that is the "hot item" of the year here and then do just as THEY want. I don't believe there was one single movie that they didn't smoke like a fiend. I was truly astounded after hearing them wanting to ban smoking.


  1. Hi Connie! I may have beat you to Pink Saturday, but YOU are always Number 1 in my book!! I enjoyed reading your post today. Your family history mission must be time consuming but oh how rewarding. I agree with your hubby ~ just walk out on arrogant doctors. As far as marriage is concerned, I am in it for the long haul. With all of it's ups and downs, it is a commitment we made with Our Lord and we honor our vows. Yes there are times when it's a rocky road, but we stay together and I could not be happier.

    Have a wonderful 4th!!

    Lots of love and hugs,
    Susan and Bentley

  2. Hey Sweets!
    I am slowly getting back to blogging and life as I know it again! Just thought I'd come over for a visit to see how you are doing. Certaintly miss our PRH group of gals.

    A bit of good news...hubby got a job locally and starts the 11th of July. After 10 loooong months he will be less than 10 minute to work. God REALLY answered our prayers as we was beginning to get preesure to move to Chicago about the middle of July! God's timing is amazing!

    Stop by when you can!
    Hugs and LOVE!

  3. I too had a horrible experience with a hospital Dr - sticking a needle into my wrist to give me a steroid injection and hitting the bone. I nearly fainted with the pain - he laughed! And yes, I did report it. Never again!

    The arrogance of some of the medical profession is unbelievable. I'm so glad you went back to your original doctor.

    Well, after that rant, just wanted to say what lovely flowers! I've done a mad Uncle Sam blinkie (needless to say, the LinkUP thingie didn't work and only gave me a blank grey avatar - and won't let me edit!)
    Happy Pink Saturday and a hug from the UK.

  4. hi Connie

    So glad to see you back. Hope that the mission goes well, they can be daunting.

    You are soo right about being our own heath care advocate!

    Happy 4th

  5. Your roses are lovely....
    I hope you do go see another doctor and maybe even write a letter too.
    See this article:
    And as for Hollywood; I have always told my children...never listen to celebrities and stars or those in the industry about anything. They are here to entertain, nothing more. They can't take care of themselves or their families.....why would you look to them for advice, etc.? Heck....They can't even carry on a decent conversation unless it is written for them.
    Wishing you and yours a pinkishly beautiful Independence weekend

  6. What a terrible ordeal you went through. Do pray you find a doctor that cares about you. I know I should, but I have never had a colon procedure and trying not to. Trust you are having a better day.

  7. Hi Connie, So glad you had such beautiful roses to view after your ordeal. You are right about being an advocate for yourself or family. There are many great Doc's out there. Why put up with one that is clearly a self centered nut. I know your mission is a detailed one. But something tells me it is going to be a great one for you! Have a safe blessed holiday.



  8. Hi Connie, so love your garden...very very pretty. Good for you for standing up and being heard and not settling for bad treatment. Hope everything works out for you.

  9. Hi Connie Sweetie...
    What a beautiful share today. I so adore your gardens, love the shape of the rose bed, and so pretty are the colors. Deep pinks and golden yellow accents around the petal edges. Just beautiful. I can't wait to see the new one you have added. I could smell the fragrance clear out here in Phoenix.

    Now you experience, I am right there with you girl. If that DO couldn't even look you in the face and nobody wanted to allow you to meet in person. I too, would want to meet the dr. who would be my snake charmer. Hello. I am so happy you cancelled with him. He does NOT deserve your money or you as a patient. I agree he is in the wrong profession.

    Have a beautiful 4th of July sweetie. I hope you are feeling better with each passing day. Your foot is healing good? Keep me posted. Be patient with you work for the 15 hours a week. It is harder than we think to squeeze in the time. It will all be worth it in the end. Yes programs can be quite trying at times. Just when we get one figured out, they change it on us.

    Many hugs and much love, Sherry

  10. I love the pictures! I am glad to be reading your posts. I know how busy you are with your mission! I would go to a different doctor too. Before I was diagnosed with Fibro, I was having terrible headaches that would last for weeks on end. I was about 23 years old at the time when the started lasting for months. I had a bad headache for about 6 months straight so Mom and I tried a new doctor. I had to have my mom with me because my head hurt so much I couldn't drive and she had to come in the appointment with me because I couldn't concentrate on anything anyone was saying. (Yes, college classes at this time were hard to go through) Well, he told my mom that I was emotionally disturbed and only wanted sympathy and attention. He said to see a psychiatrist. Was my mom mad! I don't remember too much about this, but I certainly heard about it when I was better. She wrote a letter and complained to the AMA. After that, I just learned not to talk about it to anyone really until 2003 when I was diagnosed properly. Doctors can be such jerks!

    I hope you are having a good day!!


  11. So proud of you for confronting that doctor. It may or may not make him think about his lousy manner but hopefully others act as you did. As for smoking (or any other ridiculous bans) I totally agree. I have lung trouble yet will stand beside the person who wants the freedom to smoke since we as a nation can't have true freedom unless it's really F.R.E.E. Welcome back & hope you're feeling well.
    Wags, Niki

  12. Unbelievable, it's no wonder our country is the worse nation when it comes to heath care! Would I want to live any place else? Not on your life. Hopefully we can get our health care crisis under control. In the mean time, I will pray for you Connie. This man's behavior was absolutely deplorable!
    HPS and Happy 4th of July, Marcia

  13. Your roses are lovely. Happy 4th of July and PS!

  14. I just went thru a similar situatio with my bone Dr. When he got abrupt I held up both hands & said, 'Stop. I asked you a question, there is no reason for your being abrupt so you will stop it right now.' He couldn't have said cookie if he had a mouth full. His tone did change tho. Then as he turned to leave, I said ... 'Dr. do me a favor'. He turned & asked 'what'. I replied, ' Smile'. He did a smile, forced but did it. Bet he'll think about this for a very long time. His head of this practice & I had spoken of this Dr. & his attitude/manner. The head Dr. is the one who said to tell him to smile. I still chuckle at his 'not knowing which way to go' when confronted.

    I believe as do you Connie ... this is MY body, MY life & the Dr. will do it MY way in a pleasant manner or it won't occur with him.

    Had a colonoscopy Dr. once that pulled the same as yours ... not wanting to meet before the procedure. Well, let me tell you there were some loud voices with this 'woman Dr'. Never went back.

    Good for you. I wish everyone wasn't so wishy washy & would take a stand. Speak up, people.

    May her flag fly high & proud forever over this great land ... may God see the changes we need & grant us that blessing.

    Happy 4th, sweetie.

    TTFN ~

  15. me again Connie. I see now why you have been missing in action. Take care of yourself and don't take any guff off of any dr. My husband has been a type 1 diabetic for years and every new procedure he (we) have tried was introduced by us not the drs. Right now, we are doing it again and fighting with the insurance companies. It just blows my mind sometimes not to mention the spilt tears. xoxo


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